What you see in movies and read in books about soldiers losing their psychological stability after being exposed to war, are true experiences of most soldiers. The mental stress that war brings upon soldiers is overbearing that after years in battle, they may have survived, but their mental state has long been gone.
This is the reason why some families find it hard to cope up when a member of the family who has been to war is been relieved off his duty to the country. While there is tremendous happiness because, finally, their love one will be coming home, there is also a moment of sadness, especially when they see their loved ones suffer so much from the trauma. At times, it would seem that the person that came back is no longer the same person that left.
I however, escaped the battlefields with my mental state intact. The downside – I went home to my family, missing an arm.
My arm had to be amputated after it got severely hit by a bomb. The doctor assigned to our platoon was left with no choice. It was either to amputate me or leave me to die.
Now, even though I have come home to my family, I cannot even do anything for them. I can’t play with my daughter, nor can I help with the house chores.
Some chores require the strength of a man, and as I sat there and see my wife do all the work, I feel so much pain for not being able to do anything. Whenever I try to help even through the littlest possible way, she would either tell me she can handle it or she would tell me that she would just hire a service company of sort to do the job. Now, not only is she doing all the work, she also has to spend money for things that do not need paying for if only I was still whole and able to do the work.
At first it was difficult for me to accept the situation. I’m not a man without my capability to work for my family and even help them in simple tasks. But my wife told me she is more than happy that I am back, because it does not matter if I am missing an arm, as long as I am back at home, alive. She is just happy that the man he loves is back for her to care for and thank for the wonderful life my bravery has given her and our children. She also said that being a soldier is enough work for any man. Risking your life for the good of people you do not even know, is one of the bravest thing anyone could do.